Daycare and cf

[renee]

I am a mum of a 3 year old girl with cf. I chose to put my daughter in family daycare 1 day a week. Family daycare is the one were they look after your child in there home with only about 3 other children at one time. I also chose this because the daycare lady took note with what jade needed, (enzymes etc). From the start i said to her i dont want jade in if there is another child in on her day, that is showing any signs of a cold. Text me in the morning and i wont bring jade in. So jade misses out on daycare even if shes not the sick one, but thats the only way i could do it and feel safe. NOW, lately jade has been going 2 days a week, but, she has only been once in a month because everyone is sending there kids with bronchilitis etc, so thank god jade hasnt got it. But im starting to get a bit p'd off because jade isnt even getting a go now. Most of these mums i know and they know jades circumstances. But they are still sending there kids sick, knowing jade wont beable to go if they send there kid sick, (again). Jade loves going and we have no family were we live so its my only time out aswell. But we are not getting any timeout lately. I know im having a whinge here, but would you be upset too? Jade always talks about playing with the kids and is asking when shes going etc, and i have to keep saying that she cant go because there are sick kids there all the time and she gets up set that she cant play with them.It hurst me because these people are sending there kids sick, every week and jades not even getting a go. Oh and the daycare lady has a signs on her door saying dont bring your child in if they are showing any signs of a cold. I feel like saying, well you might as well rip that sign down. What do you other carers think? Should i keep her in there, because its costing me money and heartache, but when she does go she loves it........
I just wish people would see were we are coming from and give little jade a turn too......
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Mum of jade 2 1/2 (has cf deltaf508), Tahlia 9 (no cf) and kelsey 12 (no cf).

[skye357]

hi there Renee
I know how you feel!! when my Jade was 22 months old,being an only child,and needing to do paperwork for my hubby, I decided to take Jade to Daycare once a week for 5 hours. She was always hanging around other kids at the parks, and clinging to older kids when we went to playgroup so I got it in my head that we could both benefit here! Any way there are 16 other "wombats" in the group, and although the centre is diligent on germ control, mums and dads still insisted on sending sick littlies in, a sign of the times, gotta work financial crisis, I get it, puh leeezze!! leave your sick bubba home!!the first time, I dropped her in, picked her up she got a cold, didn't go back until she was well again (unlike some other parents!!) the same thing happened our next visit, 2 weeks recovery!! but we persevered, and it gradually became once a week, and now, she is a little "joey" who is 3 and a half and goes two half days a week, and rarely gets sick at all. she sometimes gets a sniffle but nothing that hangs around. I think you should continue taking Jade, I believe you need some relief, plus your little one will socialise and so will her immune system! just top up vit c, thats what we do. I Myself am lucky as I have the opportunity to be a stay home mum, so dont need to have her there, I do paperwork for hubby, but that can be squeezed in at night!but, the point I am making is if you can perhaps compromise with yourself and pop her in for just 4 hour days, obviously that wont work if you need to be somewhere, but we started off on 3 hour days and now they are 5 to 6 hour stays that way she can have fun without being incubated all of the day, plus day cares tend to use air conditioners.but if anyone is especially sick I do have a treasure give me a buzz to give me heads up to come later when the childs parents have picked them up, Im waafling now, hope this helps! Skye

[DaniButton]

Hi Renee,

I have my little angus who is 1 next month in daycare 4 or 5 days a week because i am at uni & have no family that can look after him. I have found daycare to be excellent and they turn away sick children and strictly enforce their policies on sick children, maybe a daycare centre would be better than family day care? Angus has only picked up a couple of minor colds since he has been in care since feb. I know we have been lucky, and the other families in the centre are pretty good.

hope you find a solution

Dani
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[renee]

Hiya, thanks for your replies. I have taken jade back to her 1 day a week because its costing me a fortune and shes not going. When i first started jade in this daycare all the mums on her day knew about jade, (theres only 2), and they knew i didnt want jade around the kids if they had any signs of a cold. But still they sent them, so i said if your child has a cold and your going to send them, let me know and jade will have to miss out, even though shes not the sick one! I spoke to the carer about this aswell as she said there not suppost to send them when there sick and put a sign on her door and everything saying if your child has a cold dont bring them ect. To this day, jades been once because the carer has taken the sick kids in and just text me in the morning saying theres a sick kid here today etc, so i cant bring jade in then. I still pay if jade doesnt go. So jades missing out and shes not even sick and i still have to pay, because the carer is taking in the sick kids. Its because a cold is just a cold to a normal person, and shes getting paid regardless. She may as well take her little frigin sign of her door i say! Lifes going to be unfair to little jade anyway, but i didnt think it would happen like this, so soon in her life. Its unfair. But i feel like i dont have a leg to stand on because i made the rule of , "well if your sending your sick kid, text me and i wont send jade", its the only way i could do it and feel safe because they werent listening to me and just sending there sick kids, and they feel its unfair they cant send there kids if its 'JUST A COLD', and they still have to pay. And i know one pays more than me so she feels she has the right to send her sick kid all the time. It just hurts me jades already missing out! Sorry girls for the vent, i dont know what to do because jade still needs to lead a normal life. Am i being a bit over the top or not?
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Mum of jade 2 1/2 (has cf deltaf508), Tahlia 9 (no cf) and kelsey 12 (no cf).

[Fran]

Hi Renee
This is a really difficult one and I was exactly the same when Lachy was a little fellow. I often checked with visitors before they arrived that everyone was ok or before we went somewhere.
The only thing I can say is that it got better as he got older. He went to preschool, then to primary school and now he is at a high school with 1800 kids, and there is no way of controlling any of those environments.
I have taught him to wash hands whenever he can, don't share drinks or food, and to keep a distance from anyone he thinks sounds like they are unwell. He has a good ear for coughs!
All the best for you and Jade.
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Fran. Mum to Michael 19 (no cf) Tim 17 (no cf) Lachy 15 DDf508

[cfmum]

hi
it sounds as if a big part of the problem is the carer wont enforce her own rules about not bringing in sick kids. could you maybe try another daycare, one where they are stricter?